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Hope: The Most Powerful Word in the World
There is a word, soft as a whisper and loud as a roar, ancient as the stars yet young as every sunrise. A word that outlives war, weathers storms and wakes us even on the darkest mornings. That word is hope.
Hope is not wishful thinking. It is not naive optimism nor blind positivity. Hope is a defiant act of imagination. A rebellion of the soul. A deep-rooted, sacred contract with the future that says, “This is not how my story ends.”
Mandela Day – 67 Divorce Problems & Solutions Workbook
A few years ago, I set out to answer 67 questions from followers on social media, about the challenges they face going through separation and divorce, to commemorate Mandela Day. The results and feedback was so overwhelmingly positive and full of gratitude, that I compiled a workbook with even more added resources that you can refer to. The workbook has also been updated since then. You can download the latest version, print and start working through it immediately. Here is the link.
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE’s)
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) are pivotal events that occur during childhood and have lasting impacts on an individual’s mental, physical and emotional well-being. Coined by Dr. Vincent Felitti and Dr. Robert Anda in the 1990s, ACEs encompass various forms of abuse, neglect and household dysfunction experienced before the age of 18. Read more…
International Stamp Out Spiking Day with Drinkerbell (15 July)
Watch this inspiring interview with Peach Olive, who’s daughter Skyla’s drink was spiked. She created an amazing way to safeguard your drinks when you’re out and about. This is a great story of turning a traumatic experience into a worthy awareness campaign.
World Youth Skills Day (15 July)
To commemorate World Youth Skills Day, you have a blog post and an edugraphic about the 12 Essential Life Skills the Youth of today needs, in order to succeed in the world.
The Edugraphic, can be downloaded for free and shared with others.
Get Up and Grow Members can read the full blog post where I discuss each of the twelve essential skills and explain what they all entail. There is also information about the soon to be launched online course for parents where they can learn how to teach and cultivate these important skills in their children from a young age.
Scroll down to see more great Resilience Resources
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Losing a Young Adult Child – Reflection on Parenting Choices: Interview with Adrienne Hines who lost her daughter unexpectedly. She shares her tragic story of loss and grief but also offers an inspiring view on finding the right balance for your family.
Generational Trauma
Generational trauma can have a profound and long-lasting impact on individuals, families and entire societies. Understanding how the different kinds of trauma can impact individuals and communities across time and space can be useful in developing effective strategies for healing and prevention. There are many different types of generational trauma that can be passed down…
Why Horses Heal
In a world that rushes relentlessly, there exists an ancient companion who walks at the rhythm of healing, listens without judgment and mirrors the human soul with unflinching honesty. The horse, a majestic, primal and intuitive animal, is not just a relic of our shared past but a potent ally in our emotional resurrection. When trauma fractures our inner compass, horses help us find north again. Read more..
Get Up and Grow Podcast
A Mothers Loss Grieving the Death of her Children: (Interview with Stephanie Frieslaar). A moving conversation with a mother who lost four children and learnt the value of forgiveness in starting her healing process.
Bereaved Parents Month: July
Mental Health Awareness Month: July
The Neuroscience of Conflict
Neuroscience Explains Why We Act Like Idiots in Conflict. When we feel threatened we operate from the most primitive parts of our brain because that is how we were designed to protect ourselves.
Get Up and Grow Podcast – Bereaved Parent’s Month (July)
July is Bereaved Parents’ Month and as promised, here is a deeply moving interview with a bereaved mother.
How does one live with the tremendous grief of losing a child, let alone two? Much gratitude to Ankia Nel who shares her incredible story of mourning her huge loss and rising above her grief to create a beautiful and inspiring life, as she continued to raise two children born after her heart-breaking experience.
Jokes and Why Laughter is Truly the Best Medicine
In a world bruised by burnout, fractured by trauma and held together by sheer will, there remains one irrepressible force that rises like sun through the storm. Laughter.
Laughter is the original human defibrillator. It jolts the spirit back to life, breaks the silence of suffering and stitches together the broken pieces of our resilience with golden thread. From ancient fire circles to modern boardrooms, laughter has always been more than just a release. It’s a revolution. It is where vulnerability meets vitality and where trauma loosens its grip. Read more
Turn Workplace Conflict into Collaboration Workbook
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NEW Matriarch Series (3 Online Short Courses in July) – SOLD OUT
The Matriarch Series™ is a three-part, emotionally supportive short course collection designed for the women at the heart of their families, the ones who feel responsible for holding space, offering comfort and guiding their loved ones through life’s hardest moments.
This Course is SOLD OUT
In the Fading Light: A Love Letter for Alzheimer’s Awareness Month
Each June, the world softly turns its gaze toward a deeply human experience. Alzheimer’s Awareness Month is not only a call to action but a call to presence. A time to remember those who are slowly forgetting. A time to learn, to understand and to honour the ones living in a shifting reality. And a time to stand beside those who care for them, often silently, tirelessly and with a strength that defies words. Read more…
Menopause – The Awakening of the Wise Woman Within
Throughout human history, the female body has been revered as the sacred vessel through which life is conceived, nurtured and brought forth into the world. Yet while much attention has been given to a woman’s fertile years, the less spoken but equally vital transition of menopause is often shrouded in silence, stigma or sorrow. It’s time we change that.
I’m Not Chasing Algorithms – This is My Gift to You
I’m Not Chasing Algorithms. Watch this heartfelt revelation about my gift of the Get Up and Grow Community, as a testimony of my own life of cultivating resilience through all kinds of adversities and traumatic experiences.
FREE Online Divorce Summit (2025)
On 25 June, which is Global Fair Divorce Day, we hosted the second annual FREE Online Divorce Summit, with great success. Thank you for all your support through this endeavour.
Watch this space for next year’s event!
World Wellness / Wellbeing Week (24-30 June)
World Wellness Week is a great reminder for all of us to pay attention to the importance of cultivating well-being in all aspects of our lives.
In the video I discuss various ways you can cultivate personal wellness in all the interconnected spheres of your life.
In the blog post I talk about 9 great ways you can foster wellbeing, that are all equally applicable in the workplace and at home with your family.
International Widow’s Day (23 June)
To honour International Widow’s Day, I recorded two deeply moving interviews with women who share their lived experiences of losing a husband, life partner, best friend and father of their children. I am truly grateful for your contributions to support so many other women who are going through similar experiences of loss, grief and mourning. Thank you to Karen Gemmeken and Renette Vosloo!
Solstice (21 June)
Here are two short videos that will give you an inspired perspective on the cycles of life and how they are similar to the winter and summer solstices, as they are traditionally celebrated in various cultures all around the world.
Enjoy this time of renewal and reflection and I encourage you to create a unique, beautiful ritual for yourself and your family to honour everyone’s journeys.
Happy Solstice to you all!
Sexual Violence in Conflict
In recognition of the International Day for the Elimination of Sexual Violence in Conflict | 19 June
In the shadows of war, far beyond the bombs and battlefields, lies another battleground: intimate, brutal and often invisible. Here, the weapon is not artillery, but the human body. Sexual violence in conflict is not incidental. It is calculated. It is cruelly effective. And it is unconscionably underreported.
Learning Disability Week: Learning Preferences and Neurodiversity in Adults & Children (16-22 June)
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Youth Day (16 June)
To commemorate World Youth Skills Day, you have a blog post and an edugraphic about the 12 Essential Life Skills the Youth of today needs, in order to succeed in the world.
The Edugraphic, can be downloaded for free and shared with others.
Get Up and Grow Members can read the full blog post where I discuss each of the twelve essential skills and explain what they all entail. There is also information about the soon to be launched online course for parents where they can learn how to teach and cultivate these important skills in their children from a young age.
Scroll down to see more great Resilience Resources
International Cancer Survivors Month (June)
If you are reading this and facing cancer, I want you to know that you are not alone. I have been in your shoes. I was diagnosed with cancer, endured the uncertainty, the treatments, the exhaustion and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with it. Now, six years in remission, I can tell you that while this journey is incredibly tough, there is also light, hope and resilience to be found along the way. Read my Blog
Father’s Day (16 June)
Here are two interesting articles I wrote about Father’s Day. They contain practical tips and sound advice for divorced fathers and mothers to help them honour the father figures on this special day.
Don’t allow this occasion to be painful – turn it into a teaching opportunity for your children.
Child Labour – World Day Against Child Labour (12 June)
Every child deserves a childhood filled with play, learning, safety and hope. But for 160 million children worldwide, that dream is stolen by the harsh reality of child labour. Today, on World Day Against Child Labour (June 12), we come together as a global community of parents, professionals, educators and employers, to confront this injustice and ask: What can we do to stop it? Read the Blog
International Men’s Health Week (12-18 June)
To commemorate International Men’s Health Week, I’ve recorded a series of interviews with remarkable men who are prepared to share their experiences of facing several adversities, the life lessons they’ve learnt from it and how they overcame them. Much gratitude goes to all of them who are brave enough to show their vulnerability, speak up and advocate self-care & personal growth so that our men can be healthy.
Global Wellness Day (8 June)
To commemorate Global Wellness Day, I made a short video with very valuable practical tips – things you can do to ensure you cultivate wellness in all aspects of your life, be it emotional, physical, mental or any of the others.
Check it out here and share with others please!
World Best Friend Day (8 June)
Best Friends?
What if your best friend betrays you?
“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” – Elbert Hubbard
The qualities of a best friend can vary depending on personal preferences and individual relationships, but there are several common qualities that are often associated with strong friendships. In this blog post, I discuss some key qualities of a best friend and what you can do if they betray you.
World Food Safety Day (7 June)
June 7th marks World Food Safety Day, a time to reflect on the importance of safe food practices and their impact on our lives. This day, established by the United Nations General Assembly in 2018, aims to raise awareness about food safety issues and inspire action to prevent, detect and manage foodborne risks. I believe that understanding and implementing safe food practices are crucial for fostering resilience in families and communities. Read the Blog
World Environment Day (5 June)
Care for Environment Guarantees Resilience
As we commemorate World Environment Day, it’s essential to reflect on the pivotal role our environment plays in our lives. Our surroundings aren’t just a backdrop to our daily activities; they are the foundation of our health, well-being and resilience. As individuals, we have a profound responsibility to lead by example and educate those around us about the importance of nurturing and preserving our environment. Whether you are a parent, employer, leader or simply someone who cares, your actions can inspire and drive change.
In this blog post I talk about the impact of Mother Nature on our daily lives and offer 36 practical tips for sustainable living at home.
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Navigating High Conflict Divorce with Dignity. Watch this insightful conversation with Divorce Coach and Restorative Family Mediator, Tina Huggins. It is jam packed with various aspects of high conflict separations.
Global Day of Parents (1 June)
To acknowledge and celebrate the essential role parents play in their children’s lives and society’s overall well-being, I’ve created a parent guide for family transitions.
16 of the most difficult transitions and their impact on you and your family are covered and I offer 12 essential skills for effective change management that you can apply immediately.
Everyday Defiance – the Psychology of Rule-Breaking
The other day I walked past a floating bridge crossing over a small section of a large dam, which was clearly marked with a large overhead sign: “Cyclists Only.” And yet, there they are – three adults leisurely walking across it, stopping mid-span to take a photo. No urgency. No confusion. Just quiet, confident disregard. Read the Blog
Working from Home
In a world that has transformed dramatically over the past century, few shifts have been as impactful, far-reaching and life-affirming as the global movement toward working from home. Once a privilege for a select few or a necessity for rural artisans, remote work has now emerged as a powerful lifestyle choice.
Get Up and Grow Podcast
When Parental Alienation Thrives and Destroys Families. In this video three of the series, I look at the ideal conditions for alienation to occur as well as what is missing in families where alienation is present.
World Day of Cultural Diversity (21 May)
21 May is World Day of Cultural Diversity and to commemorate that, let’s look at the role cultural diversity plays in our relationships, families and communities especially when going through separation and divorce.
International Stepmother Day (18 May)
Rooted in the evolution of family structures and dynamics, step-parenting carries both challenges and opportunities for growth, impacting individuals and families in profound ways in our modern society.
Read the full blog post and also have a look at the two Edugraphics with Do’s and Dont’s for Step-parents. They are a great resource to download FREE of charge.
International Day of Families (15 May)
To commemorate International Day of Families on 15 May, I talk about various Social, Economic and Demographic Aspects that impact the resilience of families in this video. The Edugraphics next to it, are a summary of the concepts covered in the video, for you to download for free.
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Why the Systems Fail Us Every Time (Parental Alienation). Let’s take a hard look at the systems of the law, medical practitioners, mental health professionals, social services, schools, the media and our culture – non are equipped to resolve alienation.
Mental Health Awareness Week (12-18 May)
International Road Safety Week (12-18 May)
International Road Safety Week, observed from 10th to 14th May annually, stands as a beacon of awareness and action against one of the most pressing global challenges: road safety.
Embrace Creativity & Innovation for Resilience
April 21 marks World Creativity and Innovation Day, a United Nations-designated day to celebrate the transformative power of creative thinking in solving global challenges and advancing sustainable development. For those navigating life’s adversities – whether as parents, professionals or individuals seeking post-traumatic growth – cultivating creativity and innovation is not just a luxury but a vital skill. Read the Blog
Mother’s Day (Sunday 11 May)
While Mother’s day is a joyous occasion for most families, being separated or divorced can turn this day into a very painful event if not handled with compassion, empathy and an understanding of the value and learning opportunities it brings to both parents and their children. Here are some valuable practical tips:
Cartoons – Celebrating World Cartoon Day (5 May)
To commemorate world cartoon day, take a look at these two cartoons I created a while ago. It illustrates a perfect example of how to respond to feedback we get from our loved ones, about our behavioural patterns. Click on the images to download a high-res copy for free.
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Why Parental Alienation Started Long Before Your Separation. Inthis video, I explain how the intricate dynamics of family relationships play out to pave the way to alienation, long before separation event occurs.
Grub & Grow – Your Monthly Bite-Sized Boost for Resilience and Growth!
I’m thrilled to announce a brand-new, exclusive live event for our Get Up and Grow Accelerator members:
Grub & Grow – starting Thursday, 5 June, at 13:15 (and every first Thursday of the month after that)!
This exciting new initiative is your chance to grab a bite, grow your resilience and connect with a like-minded community – all in just 45 minutes.
Safety & Health at Work Day (28 April) and International Worker’s Day (1 May)
Health, Safety and Wellness in the Workplace is vital to the success of any business and organisation. In this video I discuss 10 aspects and strategies for both employers and employees.
Workplace Bullying & How to Respond to it
Workplace Bullying and How to Respond to It. Learn more about the reasons why people are bullies, the scope thereof and some great suggested responses to help you deal with it effectively.
Immunisation: Honouring the Journey, Embracing Informed Choice
Each year, World Immunisation Week in April, reminds us of the extraordinary global health achievement that vaccination represents. Yet, it also opens an important dialogue about personal rights, scientific discovery, societal responsibility and the undeniable power of informed decision-making.
Parental Alienation Awareness Day (25 April)
I’ve designed a special range of clothes to commemorate International Parental Alienation Awareness Day on 25 April. This is for parents who are alienated from their children and here is what it means to me:
My heart (red) is filled with love for my child(ren) and although my child(ren) show no love for me, their hearts (white) are pure. The t-shirt is black to mourn the loss of the children. There are red parent hearts with one, two, three and four up to eight white child hearts.
Post Traumatic Growth Summit (25, 26 & 27 April 2025)
Post Traumatic Growth Summit.
24 Interviews about lived experiences & expertise
24 Blog Posts about Trauma related topics
21 Trauma Education videos
Read more…
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Books Build Resilience Through Life’s Toughest Storms
Long before digital downloads and audiobooks, the story of humanity was etched into clay tablets, papyrus scrolls and parchment. The earliest known book, The Epic of Gilgamesh, dates back over 4,000 years, offering a glimpse into ancient Sumerian life and the existential questions we still ponder today.
Get Up and Grow Podcast
The Secret to Parenting Harmony and Wellness in Health, Learning & Relationships. Melissa van Hal shares a wealth of practical tips and advice to cultivate a resilient family.
The Universal Message of Easter and the Power of Post-Traumatic Growth
As Easter weekend wraps us in its gentle embrace, we’re invited into a moment of reflection. For many, Easter is a sacred celebration rooted in the Christian tradition – the story of sacrifice, death and miraculous resurrection. But even beyond religious beliefs, Easter offers a powerful metaphor that resonates with every human soul, no matter their faith, background or path in life. Read the Blog
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Shocking Facts about Vicarious Trauma of First Responders: Vicky Townsend shares why she has taken it upon herself to garner support for our heroes when they go through breakups and divorce.
Ex Spouse – Honouring the Wounds and Wisdom of What Was
April 14th is Ex Spouse Day. I want to pause and honour something few are brave enough to talk about, let alone commemorate. This day isn’t just about acknowledging someone you once shared a life with. It’s about making space for the grief, the growth, the gut-wrenching shifts and the glimmers of healing that come with navigating life after a significant relationship ends.
Conscience – Cultivating a Life of Integrity, Compassion and Resilience
Every year on 5 April, the world pauses to observe the International Day of Conscience – a gentle but firm reminder to listen to that quiet inner compass that guides us in moments of moral complexity. But what is conscience, really? And in a world fractured by noise, trauma, division and distraction, how do we keep our moral compass steady?
When Love Hurts – The Dark Reality of Intimate Partner Abuse and the Journey to Freedom
When we hear the word toxic, what do we really mean?
Is it just someone who’s bad for us? Someone who drains our energy, dismisses our feelings or fails to respect our boundaries? Or is there something more sinister lurking beneath the surface – a darker truth we often shy away from because it’s too painful, too confronting or too close to home?
Let’s go there.
Get Up and grow Podcast
The story of a mother (Ema Cassins) who was alienated as a child, realised how she was naively alienating her children because of her own childhood experiences and eventually became the target of severe alienation as a stepmother.
Autism: Embracing Neurodiversity with Compassion
Every year on April 2nd, the world comes together to observe Autism Awareness Day, a crucial opportunity to celebrate neurodiversity, dispel harmful myths and advocate for inclusion and understanding. For many families, educators and individuals on the autism spectrum, this day is more than just a symbolic gesture – it is a reminder of the ongoing journey toward acceptance, support and empowerment. Read the Blog
Zero Waste – Why a Waste Free Future Matters More than Ever
Waste is any material, substance or byproduct discarded after primary use. It includes food scraps, plastic packaging, electronic waste and even wasted time and energy. Every year, billions of tons of waste are generated worldwide, much of which ends up polluting our environment, harming wildlife and contributing to climate change. Read the Blog
Get Up and Grow Podcast
This is a moving conversation with Michelle Ross, who shares her touching story of giving birth at 27 weeks, nurturing her precious baby in NICU and finally bringing her home after 127 days in the neonatal intensive care.
Resilient Parenting Summit 2025 (Still Available to Accelerator Members Only)
Although the Resilient Parenting Free Online Summit 2025 is over, Accelerator Members will still be able to access all the content until the new summit is released in 2026.
Sign Up or Upgrade to be part of this and other extraordinary events in the future! See Options.
NEW! Toxic Relationship Resilience Tools
Tuberculosis: A Call to Action for Healthier Lives
Every year on March 24th, the world unites to commemorate World Tuberculosis (TB) Day, raising awareness about one of the deadliest infectious diseases in human history. Despite being preventable and treatable, TB continues to affect millions of people worldwide, causing suffering, disrupting families and burdening healthcare systems. Read the Blog
Water – An Invaluable Resilience Resource
Water is the essence of life, a fundamental element that sustains every living organism on our planet. Yet, despite its critical importance, water is often undervalued and wasted. As we observe World Water Day, it’s imperative to reflect on the significance of water conservation and the collective responsibility we share in preserving this precious resource. Read the Blog
Get Up and Grow Podcast
From Divorce Victim to Transformative Coach. Nik Kiyoko shares her harrowing story of divorce and how she works with energy healing to help others who are exhausted by their circumstances.
Happiness: The Science, Significance, and Strategies for a Joyful Life
Happiness is one of the most sought-after yet misunderstood human experiences. Across cultures and civilizations, the definition of happiness varies, yet its pursuit remains universal. From the concept of “Eudaimonia” in Ancient Greece, which emphasises a life of virtue and purpose, to the Danish idea of “Hygge,” which centres on coziness and contentment, happiness is viewed differently worldwide. Read the Blog
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Still Birth at 38 weeks – A Tale of Loss & Grief. Sarah Page shares her beautiful story of honouring and celebrating their daughter over the years and how this experience has helped many others on a similar journey.
Educational Video
he Power of Boundaries for Children. Valuable Resilient Parenting Resources to help you raise healthy, happy and well-adjusted children.
Kidney Disease (Commemorating World Kidney Day – 13 March)
Every year, on the second Thursday of March, we come together to observe World Kidney Day – a global campaign aimed at raising awareness about the importance of our kidneys to overall health and reducing the frequency and impact of kidney disease. In 2025, this day falls on March 13th, serving as a timely reminder to prioritise kidney health for ourselves and our communities.
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Healing Body, Mind and Spirit from Addiction: An inspiring conversation with Christian Biedrzycki, who took an atypical approach to healing his childhood trauma after countless unsuccessful attempts at traditional rehabilitation modalities for addiction.
Educational Video
The Power of Failure. As parents we want to protect our children from being hurt, but parenting properly through failing is one of the most powerful gifts we can ever give them.
Obesity – A Global Crisis
Obesity is not merely a matter of appearance; it is a serious medical condition that threatens the health, well-being and longevity of millions worldwide. Defined by an excessive accumulation of body fat that increases the risk of various diseases, obesity has reached epidemic proportions.
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Repatterning Your Resonance can Heal Your Trauma. Jax the Heartist (Jacqueline Allschwang) explains why working with our thought and belief patterns as well as what our bodies are telling us, can help to heal past traumas.
Series of 12 Online Live Workshops for Accelerator Members Only (started Tuesday 5 November 2024 – completed 4 March 2025)
Are you ready to embark on a journey of healing, resilience and personal growth? Watch this space for a repeat of my workshop series on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), designed specifically for members of the Get Up and Grow Accelerator Community.
Learn more (this series finished on 4 March 2025)
Educational Video
Break Free from Trauma Bonding Now. Learn why it happens, what the signs are and practical steps to free yourself from it. This video is the fourth and last video in the Love Trauma Series for the month of February.
Social Justice: A call for Fairness, Responsibility & Awareness
Every year on February 20th, the world comes together to observe the World Day of Social Justice – a day dedicated to promoting fairness, equality and justice for all. But what does social justice really mean? How is it interpreted across different cultures? And why is it crucial to understand its true essence rather than falling into distorted narratives that seek to manipulate or exploit it?
Grief to Growth Online Training Course (26 February)
GRIEF to GROWTH, a LIVE 45min online course designed to help you shift your perspective, break free from the weight of grief and create a clear path forward. You don’t have to stay stuck – there’s a way through and I’ll show you how.
💡 In this course, you will:
✅ Get absolute clarity on why and where you’re stuck
✅ Experience a rapid shift in perspective
✅ Plot your own action points to move forward
PLUS! You’ll receive powerful tools to guide your journey:
📝 A Personal Grief Questionnaire & Plotting Template
🚀 My Favourite Growth Spurt Tool
💬 A Personalised Script to Communicate Your Needs to Others
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Get Up and Grow Podcast
Surviving Shot by Burglar during Home Invasion. Gill Lindsell shares her harrowing story of recovery after being shot in her home by an intruder. Also known as Bulletproof Gill, she teaches people five apps from within that are vital for resilience, especially when facing such a life-threatening adversity.
Mother Language – the Power of Native Tongues
This blog post explores the significance of mother languages, their impact on childhood development and why it is crucial for every child to learn and live in their native tongue. We’ll also delve into scientific research, statistics and compelling facts that highlight the indispensable role of mother languages in education, cognition and social development. Read the Blog
Educational Video
If you are in a Situationship and not a proper Relationship, learn about the psychological toll and how you can break free and heal from it.
Grief is More than Just Loss
Grief isn’t just about losing someone to death. It’s about losing anything that held deep meaning in your life. The end of a relationship, the loss of a dream, a betrayal you never saw coming – these are all forms of loss that leave wounds just as real and painful as any physical loss.
But here’s the question: Have you given yourself permission to grieve?
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Crucial Acts to Cultivate Lasting Relationships. In this interview with Advocate Etiene van Wyk, a divorce mediator, we talk about his observations of the most common causes of relationships breaking down and how he compiled his best advice in a book.
International Epilepsy Day (10 February)
Epilepsy is a neurological disorder characterised by recurrent, unprovoked seizures resulting from abnormal electrical activity in the brain. These seizures can manifest in various forms, from brief lapses in attention to prolonged convulsions. Globally, epilepsy affects over 70 million people, making it one of the most common neurological conditions.
Read the Blog and download the Edugraphic
Get Up and Grow Interview
Love & Dating after Divorce (how to find the perfect partner). In this interview with Laurie Gerber, we talk about various aspects to consider, issues to resolve and skills needed to get ready for dating and finding true love again.
Educational Video
February is the month of love, so I’ll be making a series of 4 videos about love and relationships in the next few weeks.
Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Partners. Learn what role your childhood plays, how you can break the cycle and attract your perfect partner.
Unplanned or Unwanted Pregnancy
Pregnancy can be a life-altering event, and when it is unplanned or unwanted, the challenges multiply exponentially. While these terms are often used interchangeably, they represent distinct experiences that shape the decisions, emotions, and consequences faced by both parents and the child. Understanding the difference is essential in providing compassionate support and guidance.
Get Up and Grow Interview
The Brutal Truth about Addiction (Interview with Merelda Bachiri): Watch this brutally honest account of what really lies underneath the disease of addiction, based on the experience of a recovering addict.
Educational Video
Overcome Your Fear of Conflict with these Simple Steps: A look a the dynamics of conflict and also a bunch of Practical Tools and Skills to help you navigate conflict like a champion.
Productivity: Time Tracking versus Task Mastery
In today’s dynamic work environment, the concept of productivity has evolved beyond the traditional metric of hours worked. Organisations worldwide are recognising the value of measuring productivity through deliverables – tasks completed, goals achieved and projects successfully delivered. This shift not only aligns with … but also fosters…
Get Up and Grow Interview
Release Tension and Trauma with TRE: Interview with Ananda Fuchs. We all experience trauma at some point in our lives and our bodies will hold onto it for decades unless we allow it to express and release. TRE is a great way to regulate and heal that.
Educational Video
Arguing is NOT Fighting (if done constructively). In this video I talk about the dynamics and value of healthy arguing. I also offer some practical tips for constructive arguments and suggest some debating skills to learn.
Education: Focusing on Academic Excellence and Respecting Individual Autonomy
January 24 marks the International Day of Education, a global acknowledgment of the critical role education plays in fostering peace, development and human potential. This day serves as a reminder of the transformative power of learning, while also prompting us to critically evaluate the scope and boundaries of educational institutions. Read the Blog
Get Up and Grow Interview
Trauma from a Wellness Point of View: Interview with Lehandra Riley. We discuss different views on trauma, how to know whether you have unresolved trauma and ways to address it holistically for healing.
Human Trafficking Awareness Month (January)
Human trafficking, often referred to as modern-day slavery, is a grave violation of human rights that exploits individuals through force, fraud or coercion for labour or sexual purposes.
I delve into its definition, explore recent stories of survival and outline actionable steps to combat it.
Educational Video
Stop Fighting and Master Civil Disagreement! A look at the differences between disagreements and fighting, how it impacts children and some practical tools to master the art of civil and respectful disagreement.
Fair Divorce – Top 90 Divorce Blogs in the World!
Celebrating 10 years in 2025
Fair Divorce, my award-winning platform for families going through separation and divorce and even blending new families, is still listed on Feedspot as one of the top blogs.
See for yourself what a wealth of FREE information, practical advice and resources are available, if you are in need of expert support.
I have lived experience of serial infidelity, all kinds of marital abuse, high-conflict divorce, judicial persecution, financial abuse and alienation, so this project is very close to my heart.
Festive Season Tips: Practical Advice for Happy Holidays
I’ve recorded an inspiring video with two Specialist Wellness Counselling colleagues, Melissa van Hal and Lehandra Riley. We talk about a variety of aspects that pose challenges for so many of us around this time of the year such as family, feelings, traditions, responsibilities, pressure, solitude, isolation, joy, rituals, self-care, support and more. It will be seven minutes of your time well spent, if you are still in two minds about how to handle some of those tricky situations.
Learning During Holidays: Should Children Continue Academic Work During the Holidays?
Should children continue learning and doing academic work during the holidays or not? This interview with Support Learning Specialist and Specialist Wellness Counsellor, Melissa van Hal, provides valuable advice and practical tips to parents on how to cultivate an environment that supports curiosity, discovery and continued learning through exploration and play, in a less structured holiday context.
Educational Video
Parenting Styles and How they Impact our Children: In this video I explain the four types of parenting, how they impact our children and how you can implement the best style, while also balancing your style with the other parent’s style for the best benefit of your child.
Human Rights (International Human Rights Day (10 December)
Human rights are the inherent entitlements that every person possesses simply by virtue of being human. They transcend race, gender, nationality and socio-economic status, forming the cornerstone of dignity, freedom, equality and justice in society. On International Human Rights Day, observed annually on December 10, we are reminded of the universal need to protect and uphold these fundamental rights.
Corruption (International Anti-Corruption Day (9 December)
On International Anti-Corruption Day (9 December), the world comes together to reflect on the scourge of corruption and how it undermines the foundations of societies. Corruption erodes trust, destroys economic stability and impedes growth and equality.
To combat it, we need to deeply understand its roots, impact and practical ways to rise above its pervasive influence.
Get Up and Grow Interview
Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse: Interview with Martin Pelders. Watch this open-hearted conversation about the challenges so many men face when dealing with their childhood trauma.
Educational Video: Rumination
Rumination
Why we do it, How it impacts us and What to Do to Stop it.
Living with a Disability (Commemorating International Day of Persons with Disabilities (3 December)
Living with a disability can be one of life’s greatest challenges, but it can also be a journey of strength, transformation and discovery. Each year, on 3 December, the International Day of Persons with Disabilities serves as a reminder to celebrate the resilience and contributions of people living with disabilities while advocating for inclusion, equality and accessibility.
This blog post offers a compassionate exploration of what it means to live with a disability, shares real-life stories of growth and transformation and, provides actionable steps for creating a fulfilling life, regardless of the challenges faced.
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Sexual Abuse: How to Deal with a Childs Disclosure (Interview with John Cardamone). John shares his own story and how his parents, family and community responded to him disclosing sexual abuse. We also talk about some of the telling signs in children that they are being sexually abused and how to respond and take appropriate action when they disclose the incident(s) to you.
Educational Video: Sponging on Others
Sponging on Other People (Why some do it, What the Impact is & How to Stop It).
Violence is a Human Issue, not a Gendered One
The term Gender Based Violence (GBV) has become synonymous with discussions around violence, particularly domestic violence. However, the concept often focuses primarily on the plight of women, overshadowing the equally critical experiences of male victims and the nuanced dynamics of violence. The term is problematic and I wish the “Gender Based” will be dropped to use only the word Violence. By shifting the narrative, we can address violence holistically and create a healthier, more balanced society.
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Interview with Ernest Fernandez (War Veteran). In this open-hearted conversation, we discuss various traumatic life events that accumulate when there is a lack of proper mental health support and guidance, such as war, abuse, coercive control, suicide and more.
Educational Video: Loyalty
Loyalty (What it Really Means and How to Navigate it)
How to Handle Holidays when Divorced
While holidays offer parents an opportunity for loads of quality time with their children, it also often involves issues such as fitting a vacation around the other parent’s schedule, giving up some time for the other’s sake, switching parenting roles while still having the usual responsibilities and not seeing your kids for a prolonged period of time.
When parents are at odds with each other about these things, the children become stressed. Add the change in routine and they are left feeling unsettled at the least. Here are some valuable tips to help you achieve a successful holiday time.
Get Up and Grow Podcast
Help Your Child Reach their Potential (Interview with Sam Soyombo). Learn about several models to apply that will help your child uncover their unique talents and skills as well as their passion and how to pursue it.
Educational Video: Integrity
Living Your Life with Integrity. Real-life examples of what it means to live with wholeness and alignment to your values as well as practical tips to cultivate integrity for yourself and your family or team.
World Diabetes Day (14 November)
World Diabetes Day, observed annually on November 14th, serves as a global platform to raise awareness about diabetes, its prevention and effective management. The campaign’s mission is to educate people on the impact of diabetes and advocate for access to essential treatment and healthcare services for those affected.
International Anti-Bullying Week (11-15 November)
Movember (Men’s Health Issues – November)
Movember, celebrated each November, is a global campaign dedicated to raising awareness of men’s health issues, particularly prostate cancer, testicular cancer and mental health concerns, including suicide prevention. Originating in Australia in 2003, Movember began with a fun challenge among friends to grow moustaches, which quickly transformed into an international movement focused on changing the face of men’s health.
Educational Video: Triangulation
Get Out of Triangulation. Don’t get caught in the middle as the mediator or peacekeeper for friends or family. See the signs and protect yourself now.
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Special Needs Divorce Support: In this interview with Mary Ann Hughes, we discuss various aspects to consider during separation and divorce, that impact children with special needs.
Data Security Month (October)
In today’s digital world, protecting our personal and business data is crucial, yet many individuals and organisations overlook essential steps, leaving themselves vulnerable to data breaches, identity theft, financial loss and emotional stress. In the face of escalating cyber threats, there’s no room for shortcuts – data security is as essential as locking your front door. Data security issues can wreak havoc on family life and business operations, from financial burdens to disrupted relationships and damaged reputations.
Educational Video: Anger
Quit Being Angry All the Time! Learn why we get so angry and what you can do about it, with client stories and actionable tips.
School Readiness: Is Your Child Ready for the Traditional Learning Environment of a Classroom?
Watch this great collaboration with Melissa van Hal (Specialist Wellness Counsellor & Education Support Specialist), Tendayi Marwa (Remedial Teacher) and Tendai Mhuriro (Foundation Phase Teacher) as we discuss the various skills and abilities children need to adapt and thrive a school.
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Intimate Partner Abuse (Domestic Violence): Interview with Jared Whitaker. Abuse has no preference. Both men and women find themselves in abusive relationships all over the world, as this brave testimony will show.
Eye Care Awareness Month (October)
October marks Eye Care Awareness Month, a time to reflect on the importance of vision, raise awareness of eye health and address the challenges individuals face when losing their eyesight. In this blog I talk about the loss of sight, an adversity that reshapes not only a person’s daily life but also their mental, emotional and social landscapes.
Educational Video: Worrying
Stop Constant Worrying (with Practical Steps to Break Free): An eye-opening discussion about the signs of being trapped in a cycle of perpetual worrying and how you can break free from it with some practical action steps to take while learning to manage your worries effectively.
Educational Video: Parentification
How to Heal Parentification Trauma (and safeguard your children): Two types of parentification, how it impacts you, how to heal from it and practical tips for parents to avoid parentifying their children.
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Survive Abuse by Perpetrators Close to You: Sinta Ebersohn Interviews Michelle Manders as she shares her horrifying story of childhood physical and sexual abuse and how it impacted her entire adult life until she managed to start healing from the tremendous trauma.
Breast Cancer Awareness Month (October 2023)
Watch this eye-opening interview with Elana Swart-Traut as she shares her harrowing story of cancer as a result of breast implants.
Thank you Elana, for your brave journey!
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Parenting for a Stronger Generation: Get Up and Grow – Sinta Ebersohn Interviews Nicole Runyon.
We discuss the different parenting styles of past generations and how it gradually created overwhelm and over protection, leading to the high anxiety experienced by children today.
World Mental Health Day – 10 October 2023
This blog post dives deep into the significance of Mental Health Awareness Day, exploring its history, the current global mental health landscape and offering actionable insights to help you cultivate better mental resilience.
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Music for Wellness: What you need to know for raising resilient children in a home filled with music for everyone. Inspiring Get Up and Grow Podcast interview with music teacher and Specialist Wellness Counsellor, Lehandra Riley.
International Day of Non Violence (2 October)
On October 2nd, the world comes together to observe the International Day of Non-Violence, honouring the legacy of Mahatma Gandhi, whose birthday also falls on this day.
Established by the United Nations in 2007, this day serves as a reminder of the power of non-violence in achieving social, political and economic change. In a world where violence often grabs headlines, this day emphasises the critical importance of peaceful conflict resolution, compassion and resilience in the face of adversity.
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Get Up and Grow Interview with Jennifer Burruel on Fentanyl: The heart-warming story of a mother who turned the loss of her son to Fentanyl poisoning, into a purpose of educating and creating awareness of the dangers of illegal counterfeit drugs.
International Sign Language Day (23 September)
On Sign Language Day, we celebrate a powerful form of communication that bridges the gap between the hearing and deaf communities. Sign language is not just a tool for communication; it’s a symbol of inclusion, equality and human connection. To understand the significance of sign language, let’s delve into its history, examine its impact across various regions and explore the lesser-known aspects of this fascinating mode of communication. Read the Blog Post
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Financial Abuse (Interview with Felicity Guest): Maintenance defaulters who withhold financial support for their children, put the primary caregiving parent in an unbearable predicament and it is exasperated by a broken system that fails to protect vulnerable victims.
Stepfamily Awareness Day (16 September)
The concept of step-parenting has ancient roots, dating back to various historical and cultural contexts where families were formed through multiple marriages, unions or remarriages. In essence, a step-parent assumes a parental role for children who are not biologically their own, navigating the delicate balance of building relationships while respecting existing family dynamics.
Deaf Awareness Month (September 2023)
Two beautiful and inspiring interviews with deaf people who have graciously agreed to give us a glimpse into their worlds. Thank you so much Jessica Combrink and Lochlan McLeod (video to be added soon) for participating!
Deaf Awareness Month (September)
To commemorate DEAF AWARENESS MONTH in September, we collaborated with Edugraphics and the National Insititute for the DEAF (NID), to create this amazing edugraphic with vital information and perspectives that hearing people need to know about deaf people.
World Suicide Prevention Day (10 September)
In this blog post, I’ll explore the causes of suicide, how it’s viewed in different cultures and practical ways to encourage resilience to prevent suicide.
Let’s TALK about Suicide.
I’ve personally experienced depression when I felt utterly desperate at various times in my life – when I lost my child, when I was betrayed, when I got divorced, when I was abused, when I was diagnosed with cancer, when I lost my livelihood to name a few.
If I did not reach out to get solid support, I don’t know how I would have overcome all those adversities through the years. It took courage and strength that no-one can muster alone.
In my life-time I have also experienced the horror of loved ones ending their own lives abruptly and being left behind with questions that will never, ever be answered – more times than I care to count.
That is why I founded Get Up and Grow. You are not alone – you have me and this amazing community to help and support you all the way – as we cultivate resilience together!
Read here what you need to know and how you can navigate the complex emotions that follow a suicide.
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Effective Communication for Parents: (Sinta Ebersohn) Interview with Karen Badenhorst. Make time to watch this video with gems of practical advice and tips that will improve your relationship with your child immensely.
World Sexual Health Day (4 September)
World Sexual Health Day, observed annually on September 4th, is a crucial reminder of the importance of sexual health in our lives. It is a day dedicated to breaking the silence around sexuality, promoting sexual rights and encouraging healthy sexual practices. Understanding and fostering healthy sexuality is essential not only for individual well-being but also for maintaining strong, resilient relationships.
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Divorce Support in the Workplace (Interview with Dr Sue Palmer Conn): Worldwide statistics indicate a dire need for employee support when going through a break-up or divorce. In this interview we discuss what can be done to meet that need effectively.
International Day of the Disappeared (30 August)
On August 30th, the world observes International Day of the Disappeared, a day to remember those who have vanished without a trace, leaving their loved ones in a state of enduring anguish. Disappearances, whether due to conflict, abduction or other mysterious circumstances, create a unique kind of suffering – an unresolved grief that lingers indefinitely.
This post delves into real-life historical events from different parts of the world where people mysteriously disappeared, the profound impact on their families and communities and how those left behind can cope with such trauma.
Get up an Grow Interview / Podcast
Raising a child with an Intellectual Disability (Interview with Candida di Giandomenico): A mother’s touching story of her inspiring life with her daughter, from birth till today – 30 years later and still growing strong. Candida offers valuable insight and advice for parents.
International Day Commemorating the Victims of Acts of Violence Based on Religion or Belief (22 August)
Religious Violence (and the cultivation of resilience): An interdisciplinary perspective of the impact on individuals, communities and societies through the ages.
Religious violence is as old as mankind, a tragic constant that has shaped our history, our societies, and our very identities. The story of religious violence is not only about destruction and suffering but also about survival, adaptation, and resilience. Across time and cultures, individuals and communities have faced immense challenges but have also shown incredible resilience in the face of such adversity. How did they manage to do this? How did religious violence impact them, and how did they cultivate resilience?
International Day of Remembrance of and Tribute to the Victims of Terrorism (21 August)
Terrorism has scarred the world, leaving a lasting impact on individuals, communities and entire cultures. Over the past century, acts of terrorism have not only claimed lives but also inflicted deep emotional, psychological and social wounds. The trauma caused by terrorism can be debilitating, with effects that can linger for generations if not addressed effectively.
In this blog post, I explore various acts of terrorism from the past 100 years, examine the resulting trauma and provide practical steps to help individuals manage and overcome this trauma.
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Bereavement Photography (Interview with Kelly Brown): The privilege of being present to capture precious moments of grief and sorrow among loved ones, is what Kelly shares with me in this beautiful interview.
International Left Handers Day (13 August)
Challenges & Triumphs of Left Handers
Throughout history, cultures around the world held diverse views of left-handedness. From ancient times to the modern era, left-handedness has been met with fascination, superstition and even discrimination. In some societies, being left-handed was associated with creativity, intuition and uniqueness, while others considered it a sign of bad luck or abnormality.
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Living an Inspired Life with Disability & Disease (Interview with Dr Elna Dürr): The incredible story of a woman born with a visual impairment, braving the world to realise her academic dreams and achieving continued success in spite of a subsequent life-threatening disease.
International Women’s Day & International Day of Indigenous People’s (9 August)
We commemorate International Women’s Day and International Day of Indigenous Peoples on 9 August. It’s a poignant time to honour the remarkable stories of indigenous women from diverse corners of the globe. Some have left an indelible mark on history. They defied norms and emerged as a symbol of strength and leadership. It reminds us of the incredible strength that resides within us all. Here are true stories of indigenous women who conquered adversity, contributed profoundly to their communities and continue to inspire us today.
Women’s Day (9 August) – Images to share in Honour of all Women
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Men’s Health: This is an absolute must watch, openhearted interview with Leanne Kanzler, who shares her deeply touching story of her husband’s sudden and ongoing battle with cancer. Let’s have honest conversations about the well-being of our men! Much gratitude to Leanne, for letting us in on their life so courageously, so that we can learn from their experience.
World Breastfeeding Week (1-7 August)
Nurturing Resilience with Breastfeeding
Breastfeeding is not just about providing essential nutrients. It is a powerful catalyst for fostering physical, emotional, mental and spiritual resilience that equip our children with the tools they need to overcome life’s challenges. Let’s delve into the scientific evidence supporting the numerous benefits of breastfeeding, focusing on how it … read the full article
World Drowning Prevention Day
25 July
To create awareness of the dangers of drowning and how to prevent it, I’ve created this great Edugraphic that you can download for free.
Get Up and Grow Members can also read this blog post where I describe various incidents where drowning has happened and the impact of such a tragedy on the mental health of the people involved. Read The Unseen Wounds of Drowning.
If you’re not a member yet, check out this page to learn more about the free and paid membership options.
Get Up and Grow Interview / Podcast
Parental Alienation
Listen to this heart-breaking and shocking story of Hannah Corey, who’s mother alienated her from her father. She never saw her dad from the age of six until she was eighteen years old and reached out to him herself. The details of her mother’s controlling and coercive behaviour is unbelievable.
Much gratitude to Hannah for having the courage to share her story with the world, so that it can help so many others understand how alienation works and find hope for reunification.
International Self-Compassion Day (20 July)
To commemorate International Self-Compassion Day, I’ve written a blog post where I discuss what it entails and offer six practical steps to cultivate self-compassion, especially when you’re facing an adversity or going through a traumatic experience.
Signed Up members of Get Up and Grow can read the full blog post here.
Farm Safety Week (22-26 July)
Four beautiful Edugraphics (educational infographics) were created with valuable information to create awareness around Occupational Safety, Child Safety, Crime Prevention and Mental Health Wellbeing for our farming communities.
The edugraphics can be used in digital format on any online platform, printed as flyers or even displayed as large posters. Available in English and Afrikaans.
Elections: What You Need to Vote
With the upcoming elections in my home country, South Africa, I wrote a blog post that I’ve been pondering for several years. There are many aspects to voting responsibly, especially in our country, that we need to consider to ensure that we are accountable citizens and wise leaders of our families.
Please read to full blog post for detailed information and insightful perspectives on the process of determining who to vote for.
Download the accompanying edugraphic for FREE and share as mush as possible to spread this vital information in your community.
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